5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular / occasional basis.2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it was asked of you.0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would permit the Dominant to do it if it they really wanted it.NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit)."?" means you don't understand what the item is attempting to describe.For willingness, indicate for each item how you feel about DOING that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender. For experience, write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.Switches should go through the checklist twice one person's Dom and sub interests may be very different.įor each item, you need to provide two answers:
Dominants may wish to work through the checklist, to get a better handle on their specific interests. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play. Most of my answers are based off the fact I consider touching with a QPR/QPP to be more affectionate which I dislike.This checklist should be filled out by a sub and provided to their Dom/ Top before playing with them. I'm also interested to see what other people say. “Romantically coded” gifts (flowers, chocolates, etc): no Having sex of any kind with my partner : yes if I'm very close with them and feel I want to Touching my partner sexually: yes (dependent)īeing touched by my partner sexually: yes (dependent) Hair brushing (receiving): not preferablyīeing called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): not preferably Hand holding in public: meh, preferably not A lot of things I said yes to aren't specific to a QPP, I have mostly the same conditions for friends. This is in a spoiler to compress the page. marriage: yes, also has tax and legal benefits Having sex of any kind with my partner : i don't really want to My partner doing sexual things with someone else: maybe My partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else: maybe My partner having other romantic partners: maybe My partner having other platonic partners: maybe? Me having other platonic partners: maybe? If swimming, sure.īeing fed by my partner: if I'm unable toīeing called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): maybe Other affectionate touch in public: probably notĬrying on: yeah, but I tend to avoid crying in front of othersīeing cried on: yeah - same as hugging, it's a comforting gestureīathing together (with bathing suits): no? I'm interpreting this as washing. Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc) in public: no Hugging: yes - mostly as a comforting gesture or goodbyes and hellos Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc): meh preferably not If my partner's heart is set on it I'd consider.Īnyone else? Super curious how others responds! Raising children together: most likely not.
“Romantically coded” gifts (flowers, chocolates, etc): yes Either way I don't truly desire any of it) Having sex of any kind with my partner : maybe (some things I can enjoy, most things I cannot. Touching my partner sexually: preferably notīeing touched by my partner sexually: maybe Me doing sexual things with someone else: no My partner doing sexual things with someone else: no Me doing romantic-coded things with someone else: no My partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else: no My partner having other romantic partners: no My partner having other platonic partners: no Other affectionate touch in public: maybeīathing together (with bathing suits): noīeing called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): yes Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc) in public: yes Some of the questions are a bit odd but I love the concept. I found this online and thought it'd be fun to give it a shot and see how others respond! It's basically a checklist for what you'd be okay with doing with a partner as an aromantic.